Travel to the interior
It is a great experience to take the time and make the effort to travel to the interior. As in back to Nature, and back to Self, to your interior. To have a profound exchange with a qualified coach about your personal journey in life. An amazing opportunity for growth. p*(Please book a free introduction session on my home page.)
I like to offer this journey to you in two ways:
- A series of online conversations, where we will address mostly YOUR interior.
- A combination with a physical journey to the interior, to the stunning, pure nature of the Ardêche, with an accompanied solo retreat in my guesthouse la Fontanita. (Someone once called the place the Amazonia of France, and he was not far off.) We can work together in the mornings,( see detailed program on retreat page) , and the rest of the day is open to you.
Some of the most important topics in my coaching practice are:
- Nature
- Creative life
- Artistic creator
- Weight and obesity
- Migration
- Silver & Golden Age
- Patriarchy and ecology
- Sexual abuse
NATURE Shows you the truth beyond all our human mental constructs: Carrier, Civilisation, Money, to name a few. Façades and Ego won’t hold for a long time…
CREATIVE LIFE Coaching to use creativity in all aspects of your life, to be resourceful, find your own solutions, and use your potential! Think of a bundle of coloured electrical wires that transports energy. If that were you, truth is, most of use only some of them, out of habit/ role in life. Nothing wrong if all goes well. But if you quickly reach your max, like a car engine that’s not using all cylinders, it’s time to act! Get to know other possibilities and overcome inhibitions.
ARTISTIC CREATOR Since your mind has heightened neuroplasticity, you might need a way of coaching that follows those neurological paths. Because creation asks for a unique configuration of brain regions that don’t work together in the average person, and they are much better interconnected, it is a must for effective coaching work, to take this in account. How often have you been asked to “tone it down”, follow the more comprehensive structures? It is time to acknowledge your own way! Whether you’re a visual artist, musician, writer, designer, or any other type of creator, this form of coaching can be the key to reaching new heights in creating, by reaching down into the depths of your core being. In my personal journey, I’ve experienced the profound impact of music as a transformative medium, as a wordless language of the Soul. It helped me stay in touch with a reality not disturbed or limited by the mind or the drama’s daily life, and share this universal energy with my public. Painting has a similar effect on me, although it’s entirely a private matter, my introverted side I suppose… As a result, I’ve evolved not only into a professional musician but also a certified coach since 2012. I’ve had the privilege of guiding numerous clients through their own transformative journeys.
WEIGHT AND OBESITY The body knows! All your Life- experiences are stocked in the body, but not so easily accessible. Very often gaining weight is a protective action from your body itself, for various reasons, such as an insecure attachment to the mother, sexual abuse, the need to look big to protect yourself or other. The true challenge is to sit with your body, and not only become aware which reasons triggered you, but also feel it, and convince your body that it may can let go. At the same time, you have to look at what you eat. I don’t think you can become obese, without an underlying carbohydrate-addiction. The first stage to a healthier life is getting rid of that addiction. You might not loose weight, but if you manage to turn this around, you will have gotten rid of your cravings. I think I have lost a lot of weight in my whole life, with all variations of diets such as KETO, Montignac and you name it, only to gain them back as soon as I stopped the diet. Diets are only fighting the symptoms, not the cause. You really have to change habits, almost no sugar, reducing carbs, and eat more protein than you were probably used to. Healthy habits, size-reduction and intermittent fasting do the rest.
MIGRATION Yes, I am a white middle-aged female so how dare I speak about this? Because I have always looked beyond Europe, and lived or worked in a lot of other countries. And more important, through my music I connected and became part of other cultures. Cultures mix and mingle, not without friction, and change on the way. Let’s be clear about it: There is not such a thing as a PURE culture. We want to give that name to a certain period, a frozen moment, but culture is like a river, it never stops flowing. Migration is one of today’s most important themes. Millions of people are on the move, for war, safety or a decent existence. When you move to another country you will always have to do with that other, new dominant culture, how do you relate to that? And where’s the friction? I f you would have a sliding button from left to right, from left: sticking exclusively to your own culture and language to right; total integration, forgetting about your own culture and language. Where would your button be? It is tricky, because we’re often not conscious about our adaptations, we copy the new values and thoughts without a blink, until one day, we don’t know who we are anymore. The only way out is to consciously balance what’s important from both sides, and create your own mix, your own culture…….I have had this experience for the last years in France. Even between two European countries the differences are big enough to cause issues sometimes.
SILVER & GOLDEN AGE “When your hair turns silver, it’s a sign you’re entering your golden age. “ Before this moment, you have done what you thought was expected from you, and taken on responsibilities at work and/or at home. Now is the time to pay attention to yourself, and start doing the things you didn’t do yet, although you always longed to do them. Or maybe it’s simply the time to remember them, or just find out about them now.
PATRIARCHY & ECOLOGY Women are not equal to men in this world. And in the decades that I witnessed, whatever was gained by the 80’s is now mostly lost again. The Abrahamic religions all promote a submissive role for her: I f you think we live in a neutral society gender-wise, think again. Only when visiting the maroon-tribe of the Maroons of the Saramaccans in the rainforest in Suriname, I witnessed matriarchy. It opened my eyes to see that we are not gender equal at all in our societies. When I speak about this most men get hostile and think I am ANTI men. Not at all. Men can also be caught in the roles that patriarchal society is dictating them. Provide, be strong, don’t show your feelings or weaknesses. Make money, even if that destroys the environment! Men are urged to deliver, short time gain is more important than sustainable methods, they also seem caught in the system. I think about my own father who always thought he had to give the impression that he knew and he could solve everything. That’s an inhuman task to ask of anyone. Not being able to show your weaknesses or emotions, or have an introspection or communicate intimately with the people around you are causing such havoc! Patriarchy is not beneficial for any gender nor for the environment. We have to change now, for our benefit, for the earth we live on and for our offspring.
SEXUAL ABUSE Unfortunately, almost every woman I speak, including myself, and some men have all been a victim of sexual abuse. It’s a small word for a very wide range of events, from insinuations, unwelcome touching to rape and incest, that all have one thing in common: they shouldn’t have happened! The trauma is not only in the happening itself, but also the aftermath. Not being allowed to speak about it, the heavy load of a secret, not being taken seriously when you do speak up etc. And the self-directed anger and culpability. Until some years ago, I didn’t know the third common reaction, besides fight or run, as the first two. The third is FREEZE. That set me free of a lot of guilt. And another hurtful idea that planted itself in my head, was that I attracted all those horny guys, so there was something wrong with me. I lived with that awful thought for so long! Whatever you do about this, or any other trauma, get help to cure it! Because your auto-defence is not necessarily you best friend here…… If you break a leg, you get treatment. With a trauma it’s the same!
SOLO RETREAT The real luxuries nowadays are: ” Space, Silence, Time.” You can experience these three in a solo retreat at La Fontanita. It is so beneficial to have time alone! You can come to the Blue Mountains of the Ardêche, and I will hold space for you, cater to you, take care of your practical needs, and we will work together in the mornings. And I live next door!
(my portrait,by Romec van Zeijl)
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